Supporting a Stressed Colleague: Dos and Don'ts
Workplace stress affects everyone at some point, and recognizing the signs in a colleague can make a meaningful difference. Offering the right kind of support fosters empathy, strengthens team bonds, and creates a healthier work environment. Here’s how to help a stressed coworker thoughtfully and effectively.
Dos: Build Genuine Team Support
- Listen without judgment: Give your colleague a safe space to talk without jumping into problem-solving mode immediately.
- Offer practical help: If possible, share tasks or assist with deadlines when workload is overwhelming.
- Encourage breaks: A reminder to step away from the desk or take a walk can help reduce tension and refocus energy.
- Model healthy stress management: Lead by example through maintaining work-life balance and positive habits.
Don'ts: Avoid Actions That Increase Pressure
- Don’t make assumptions: Avoid labeling or diagnosing your coworker’s situation.
- Don’t dismiss their feelings: Phrases like “everyone’s stressed” can invalidate what they’re experiencing.
- Don’t gossip about their stress: Keep conversations confidential and respectful.
- Don’t take over completely: Support should empower, not create dependency or mistrust.
Encouraging a Supportive Team Culture
When team members show mutual care, productivity and morale both improve. Encourage open dialogue about workload, normalize asking for help, and remind everyone that stress management is a collective responsibility. Leaders can also organize wellness workshops or adjust workloads to reduce prolonged pressure.
FAQ
How can I tell if a coworker is experiencing workplace stress?
Common signs include changes in behavior such as withdrawal, irritability, decreased productivity, or frequent fatigue. Pay attention to sudden shifts and check in privately and compassionately.
What should I do if my support isn’t helping?
If your colleague’s stress persists, encourage them to seek professional support through HR resources or an employee assistance program. Continue being understanding while maintaining boundaries.